It's okay to be sad

After my miscarriages people seemed to give me a few days to grieve, but then some began asking "why are you not over this?" What an awful question to ask. No one would go up to someone who lost a parent, child, sibling, or close friend and ask them days or weeks later why they are still sad!

My babies were everything to me. Before I got pregnant with any of my babies I loved them. So why should I be 100% over the death of my unborn babes so soon...or ever?! With the Plan of Salvation mourning saints have the reassurance that they can be with their loved ones once again after this life; however, it is okay to be sad. After all, we are temporarily separated from our loved ones, it's a trial everyone has to endure in this life.

Latter-day Saints who experience a miscarriage have to truly rely on their faith that things will be alright in the end. There is no doctrine on what happens to babies lost in pregnancy. We know and understand the Plan of Salvation, so we know all is not lost, but we don't quite have the doctrine that we will be with our angel babies again. This is where I have heavily relied on my own personal revelation to put my mind at ease. I really love the quote by Joseph Smith:

"The Lord takes many away, even in infancy, that they may escape the envy of man, and the sorrows and evils of this present world; they were too pure, too lovely, to live on earth; therefore, if rightly considered, instead of mourning we have reason to rejoice as they are delivered from evil, and we shall soon have them again …"

       --Joseph Smith--